Monday, September 29, 2008

The best and worst moments in a 6year old's day

I try very hard to tuck my children into bed every night. My wonderful husband is good at that and he does it a lot of time. Tonight I let him finish the last bit of his football game and I put the kids to bed.After all he was sweet to let em go and workout on a football night. I took a bath with Priyasha in my huge oval bath tub. I smelled so badly after working out that I just needed to freshen up for the night. I took a spin class and almost died. It was just 30 min but it was the hardest one I have done in the last three weeks. The music was so loud thankfully and no one was able to hear me croak tot he music or groan. There were moments when I closed my eyes and pushed through it. It did cross my mind to quit but I stuck with it by saying that I would skip the second half of body sculpting. I can see a difference in my body and my clothes fit better so I had to push through the pain and I did the sculpting class as well. We used resistance bands , weights and a medicine ball. I have progressed from the 3 pound weights to the 5 pound weights. Yeah for me.
So when I tucked Pravan in I asked him what was the best thing about his day and what was the worst thing about his day.
His Best thing : Mommy you coming to school today. He really likes to have me in his class and I am enjoying that for as long as it lasts. I do think he will be one of those mama's boy type of kid. He will never ever want me to not be with him. Okay let me dream and believe that. It makes motherhood worth keeping as a job.
Before I tell you his worst thing I have to give you a history about why he said this. Firstly he forgot that it actually happened yesterday. Last night my husband saw him kneeling on the floor with his head in the cushions and he had real tears rolling down his cheeks. He was sad and clearly upset. My husband asked him what happened and he said " I don't want that to happen " Hubby was confused for a min but Pravan said he was talking about what the man said on TV.
Are you curious yet ? This is classically good and we could not help laughing when he went to bed. Hubby was watching 60 Min's and the show was about the Large Hadron Collider .Check it out here:
This a 17 mile wide circle 300 feet below the earths surface in the
Franco -Swiss border near Switzerland. It is a large project that involves a lot of scientists. Anyway you can read about this interesting thing and get a glimpse of what the world would be like when we have great great grandchildren assuming this works. I understand that it could transport you from one place to another like tele porting. Science fiction type of thing. Over my head for sure. Anyway not to alarm you but one of the safety issue was that it can open up and swallow the earth. That is what scared Pravan.
" Daddy I do not want it to swallow up the earth " while he sobbed. Hubby hugged him and assure him hat will not happen. Any other normal kid would accept that and move on. Not my kid. " How will the man stop it " Hubby said " He just will " " But how ? asked Pravan confused and concerned. As a last resort hubby says " The man will shut it off before that happens " That seemed to calm him down.
Worst thing in his day : " I don't want the earth to get swallowed up by that machine "
I was in the bedroom when all this happened. I just wish I had a picture of him crying like that. When hubby told me I could not help laughing and so did hubby. We off course reassured him and I hope he will forget about this soon.
Have a good night and thanks for stopping by.

Thank you Cyber pals

I was was a not so good morning and now my head it too big. I love all the comments and compliments. Thank you that made my day better. Lately I feel like my friends are judging me. Today my friend watched Priyasha while I went to school. I was comfortable with that like I always am. Today she called to tell me that Priyasha was upset and asked if she could give her a lollipop. I appreciated that she asked but I was annoyed that she even asked. Why is it that candy is supposed to make it all better. That is not how I parent. Not that it is a bad thing but there are other solutions.
So here is what the deal is. About six months ago that same friend gave Priyasha a lollipop right before I picked her up and she was very proud that she did that. My reaction as I walked up to the car was " Did you give my daughter a lollipop ?" She said " yes" with a grin . I was not happy so I yanked , yes yanked that sugar and chucked it across the parking lot as far as I could throw. Dramatic ? Yes. I caught my friend off guard and things got weird. I then left and when I cooled down I called and apologized. I explained that Priyasha could not have a lollipop as Pravan did not get one until he was four. My kids are prone to being diabetic and I have to control the sugar they eat. They almost never get candy or cookies but they get enough to be normal. I as a mother should have the right to restrict whatever I choose and that should be respected by others.
Okay the first time she really had no idea and it was innocent. Today she knew very well. I really should not be upset as she asked first and respected my wishes. What hurt was when she said " Ah man , I thought you would give in as she is upset " Okay that just made me feel like a bad mom and made me feel awful. When I picked my daughter up I got her a fruit smoothie so I could feel better. It was a better choice but the point is one should never have to feel bad about the way they parent. Even I need guidance at times but I will not give in to candy even if she was the fourth kid.
On the note of needing guidance myself. Age six and school has brought new challenges to my parenting skills. There are many things I hope my children never know and one would be that I am not a fan of reading. I am simply too busy to sit still for more than five min at a time. I remember reading somewhere that kids model after you and if they see you curled up with a book then they will more than likely grow up loving to read. My mother never went to school and as a result cannot read or write. I grew up not liking to read either. Well it is time to break that cycle and I am willing to finally learn the joys of books. Here are all the books i checked out as I am have been doubting myself as a mother. I hope this helps. I cannot tolerate the sibling bickering and tattling. Someone tell me how it will stop. Ia m tired of yelling and sending them to their rooms. I hope to fine a solution in these books.
Okay thanks for reading. I feel better